Hi, I am looking for non-committed sexual relationships with people who are only interested in regular meetings, l am not looking for anyone specific, and l do not have a particular "type". For me, my most powerful sexual tool is my mind, and the mind connection I have with others, I do not need a cane in my hand to punish, l do not need a sub on their knees to dominate. I see my experience in BDSM as an enhancement; it is not a requirement or a necessity in order for me to live a fulfilled and happy sexual life. I found my clit before I found my whip ;) I do not do cams and l do not do cybersex, l outgrew both many years ago, so please dont ask! Although I am single in the sexual sense, I do have a partner in my life, which I love very much. Unfortunately, due to illness and medication he can no longer participate in any real sexual activity, his medication has also made an already difficult situation even harder :( I have a healthy sexual appetite and I am not willing to forsake the sexual aspect of my life, at the same time I do not want to change my relationship status either. So after having fully discussed our present situation, and with his blessing, here l am O:) I feel compelled to ask all men who cannot adore a BBW, cannot maintain an erection, and cannot handle my ability, honesty, and directness with regards to my sexual appetite or my perality to not contact me, if I am too much woman for you then please do not waste my time or yours! Life is short, and talk is cheap, we are supposed to be adults, concentrate people :P Many thanks, The Queen Bee My questions and answers seem to be causing some confusion so I thought I would clarify and add a little information about myself. I lived a full on BDSM lifestyle for many years. I studied the psychology of BDSM from the Dominant, Submissive, and Switch perspective for three years and I have also experienced submission to the extreme! I myself am Dominant, for sure; however I felt that it was important to understand the mind behind the individual need, from every point of view, in order to be the best l can be :) I know, from peral experience, what every submissive feels, because I have felt it myself, and allot more intensely. Many BDSM sites and chat rooms are dangerous places in my humble opinion; BDSM is misinterpreted, misused, and misrepresented by way too many people who think they know what they are doing. I have heard of, and I have perally been involved with some horrific injuries sustained by submissives that have met a Master or Mistress who have just beaten them up, abused them, and then left them to fend for themselves. Submission is not about abuse, a sub needs to be cherished, respected, protected and loved. Domination is not about being on a power trip, it is not about ego, for me it is about having the knowledge and skill to use that power so both Dominant and Submissive can propel themselves into another space and time, to a sublime level of total release, and achieving that state of mind and body can take many different forms, every single per has his or hers own individual needs and wants, even though it all comes under the heading of BDSM. In reality BDSM and everything that comes with it, including doing it well, takes time and commitment, it is hard work, and it is as disciplined for the Dominant, as it is for the Submissive. I am not looking for hard work; many aspects of BDSM can and are enjoyed by many people who are not necessarily into the BDSM “Scene” and it works out just fine :D I see my experience in BDSM as an enhancement; it is not a requirement or a necessity in order for me to live a fulfilled and happy sexual life. I found my clit before I found my whip ;) For me, my most powerful sexual tool is my mind, and the mind connection I have with others, I do not need a cane in my hand to punish, l do not need a sub on their knees to dominate, I am not even looking for likeminded people, most of us are likeminded in some way when it comes to perversion. Someone with a high pain threshold who would like to explore could be nice but again, not a necessity. I hope that helps to understand my Q&A’s a little better

What location do you fantasize about for a sexual encounter?:
A bed, The beach, The middle of a park, A remote wilderness spot, A swimming pool or hot tub, A hotel room, Anywhere

What types of sexual activities turn you on?:
Giving Oral Sex, Receiving Oral Sex, Anal Sex, Sadomasochism, Toys (Vibrators/Dildos/etc.), Rimming, Fetishes, Light Bondage, Candle Wax, Spanking, Role Playing, Threesomes, Mutual Masturbation, Participating in Erotic Photography, Handcuffs/Shackles, Blindfolds, Leather, Fisting, Massage

What factors are most important to you when looking for a sexual partner?:
Sexual experience, Experience in a certain role (top/bottom; master/slave), Ability to be discreet, Open to ménage à trois and/or orgies, Sexual appetite, Agreeable to a commitment free sexual relationship, Creativity/Kinkiness level, A little of each

Have you ever had cybersex?:
I've tried it, but it's just not the same.

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